attention

One of the books I've brought with me whilst I'm away relaxing is about counselling with children. It's reminded me how what we really all want is good attention and to know that we are really really wanted. Lots of us doubt this. Our parents did the best they could but we all have so much going on as parents - not just busyness but all our own stuff we carry - that most little ones have a bit of doubt as to how important we are. So we keep trying to figure ways to get close and try and believe that actually we do matter, our existence means so much to the people in our lives. We can get it into our heads that we are not loved, when actually we are really really really loved. So all we need to do for the wonderful people in our lives it to keep pointing out just how much they matter. How happy we are to have the opportunity to know them and be with them. And that when others are grumpy with them and forget to communicate delight, it's just cos of their stuff - just like we have stuff too that makes us grumpy with others sometimes.
I hope today you get some good attention, that you are reminded just how immensely important you are, how much you are loved. And that you take every opportunity you can to show those you love how they rock your world too.