Yesterday in a counselling session I was repeatedly told "you are doing so well". And it's true. It's v easy to lose sight of that when we keep noticing all we've not managed, all our muck ups. But actually, every single one of us is doing really really well. We're each up against all kind of struggles, and yet, we are doing so well.
It's sometimes frustratingly hard to realise it in others at the same time as holding tht truth out for ourselves - I do know each of us are doing our best. But when we find the homework's not been done so the morning is way more stressy than it needs to be, it can be hard to focus on how brilliantly others are doing too. My kids are ace at pointing out how unhelpful it is for me to use the word "should" so I'm pleased to report I succeeded this morning in not saying "you should have done it before". We can all learn, and decide to do things differently in future, but actually what's most important is to stay clear that we are every one of us doing really well. And that includes you too of course. So if it feels like no-one else has noticed and applauded you in that today, go ahead and point it out to yourself :D
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