This year I've already had the privilege of being at two civil ceremonies and two weddings. Today's wedding is the first in a long long time that my children will be with me for. I'm looking forward to getting chance to dance with them later :) I'm hoping the weather picks up as there are plans for a group photo on the seafront to be photoshopped later which sounds fun.
Well, the wind picked up!!
So, I've been thinking about love and marriage (funnily enough). The quote that stuck with me throughout the day, that I read before I went to the wedding, was this:
Being loved deeply gives us strength, loving someone deeply gives us courage.
I think that love changes us. It changes us when we commit to loving someone well, and it changes us when we know we are deeply loved. I'm very lucky to both love and be loved by many people, and in several cases that loves runs really deep and is committed. I'm not married to those people (obviously) but at some level we've made a commitment to hang in with each other and love as best as we can. This has been public in the case of the naming ceremonies for each of my children, where I made vows to raise them as best I can. And then I have some friends with whom I've made some kind of unacknowledged decision to love well even when it gets hard. Some of these friends I don't see so often anymore, and some I could do a better job of loving well. But in each there's a sense of no matter what they do or where they go, I'm there for them.
Marriage I guess is the epitomy of that. A very public commitment to love no matter what. My thoughts on marriage are still clouded by my feelings of hurt, but I still hold on to the importance of making a declaration of intent to love for always, supported by many around who want to help make it work. We are imperfect human beings, who despite the best of intentions, don't always manage to achieve what we set out to. But how brilliant that our desire is there, to love forever.
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