mission statement

I'm a big fan of Pip Wilson, he of "you are beautiful" declarations. I follow his blog, often short and to the point, and was particularly impressed with his recent one revealing his mission statement in just 6 words:
"I will be an effective lover"

Now, I like the potential discomfort in the use of the word lover, since as you know I think love in all its forms is marvellous and yet we live in a culture that obsesses with sex. And this too is what my aim in life is. I want to learn how to love better those I'm lucky enough to have in my life. So I want to get closer to and love better my children, my parents, my boyfriend, my friends, those I work with, the people I will pass as I walk across the army camp shortly, those I've not yet met.

I tried singing fearlessly again last night and remembered what the choir leader said about it feeling a bit out of control, that when we sing in a measured way and think about it, then it's like we have it in a box. When we become fearless we can feel we have less control. Sometimes I feel loving fearlessly can be a bit like that, and I'm not perfect and still have much to learn!

As I don't think love is zero sum, I'm of the view that the better I get at loving anyone, the knock on effect should be positive, the more refined I can be in my loving effectively - tho we all need love in different ways so what will work for some won't work for others. Time/focus/energy, they are not zero sum so there's balancing to be done there. I shall keep up my metaphorical tightrope walking practice :)

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