As you may remember, one of my most used catchphrases is "It's not a competition". Sadly tho in some parts of our capitalist society in which we live and move, there are competitive elements. Yesterday was hard for me with my very little patience - and we still need to wait longer yet - to find out the "result" of a "competition". It doesn't feel right, pitting people against each other instead of building people up.
I know the outcome of all these competitions can feel critical. The exam scores, driving tests, interviews - all impact hugely on the shape of our lives. And yet at another level it's how we respond, not the results that actually matter, I feel.
There's an episode in red dwarf where Arnold rimmer meets an alternative version of himself. This guy is affirming of others and instantly likeable rather than the bitter man we are used to. we get to see what 'lucky breaks' he had that set him up so well in life so he could afford to be so generous. Only it turns out that the kind rimmer is the one who 'failed' as a youngster and that is what made his character. Interesting stuff. Obviously we can't go back and see what we'd have turned out like if only we had got that job, or failed that test. What I do know is that whether in the eyes of the world we win or lose, pass or fail, are accepted or rejected, we have exactly the same amount of worth and are loved abundantly.
If at any moment you doubt that, I hope you cam hold onto the truth that you are perfectly amazing and in competition with no-one at all.
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