Treating people well can be so much easier when you're only around them a bit. Those we live with, who get our tired grotty sides, get a much rougher deal.
I've been noticing how my UPR is high around those I'm encountering the once, and much much lower when my buttons are being pressed and I really just want to go to bed. As a result I'm labelling one of my offspring "disobedient" and yelling. Only once in a blue moon do I remember to try the "It's great that you love reading so much! I can see you really don't want to stop - what do you think we can do about making sure you get enough sleep?" So we're getting into a cycle of disappointing each other and it can be hard to get out of. Delighting in folk at a distance can be pretty easy if you're of the mindset. Delighting in people, reminding ourselves just how much they mean to us, when we're caught in a pattern of feeling let down - yet again - that's a challenge. But not insurmountable :D
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