Trust

My fb status today shares a quote that goes “When you completely trust another person, you will end up with one of two outcomes. A friend for life or a lesson for life. Both, regardless of the outcome are valuable.”

I'm waiting for some wit to say the lesson may be to never trust anyone again. And for them, that of course may be what they take from a situation. For me, I feel I've always been a pretty trusting kind of person, but that more recently I'm becoming even more trusting as I'm relinquishing notions of control. I realise trust is something I have and isn't necessarily linked to another person's trustworthiness, which I have no control over. I have, like everyone, felt let down by people, feeling like my trust has been misplaced. But I believe that it doesn't mean I can no longer trust people, or even that person who let me down. Having UPR means knowing that we're all doing our best. So that's where my trust and my delight lies. If a person doesn't pull off what I'd hoped or they'd promised, it doesn't mean I can't trust them. It might mean a fab opportunity to look at how my buttons get pressed, and what I might want to do differently – but not what they have to do differently, that's their thing.

Which is not to say we can't think well about ourselves and our own needs. I can trust my own instincts, which may well keep me safe. I can choose at any time to walk away from situations/people – we don't have to be martyrs to the button pressing!! But the learning is always my learning about myself. And everytime I decide to trust my heart, my time, to other people, it is fab, just fab :D