it should have been the whole church

My heart has broken today and I have lots of mulling to do.
One of the blessings and challenges of my church is that there is a different preacher each week, you never know what you are going to get. As you know I always try to focus on what people do well, affirm people in their ministry, thank them for giving their time, and remember that we all have differing concerns and passions.
I have been disappointed in the past when there has in my mind been an imbalance, with prayers for royal babies but not natural disasters. So on my way I reflected on what I might be able to do to preempt disappointment, and on arriving I sought out the preacher to thank them for rising to the occasion after all the terrible events this week, appreciating that it could not be an easy task. I now wish I'd been more specific, and had asked rather than just spoken with my urgency.
And so with disbelief, despite an appropriate and good sermon on standing firm against the winds of adversity, and thankfully some prayers for Jo Cox and her family, not a single mention of the killings in Orlando, not at any point in the service including in the prayers.
I can't just wail at the church. I am the church. And so at the very end I interrupted and linked in to the sermon and said that the winds of adversity had been against us with the homophobic killings and that if anyone wanted to join me in prayer I would be at the front of the church for a few minutes before going through for refreshments. Credit to the minister, he said out loud at that point that he had been remiss for not mentioning it. And he came and joined the prayers. There were 8 of us, it was better than nothing being done but as one of those participating said to me - it should have been the whole church. It should not have had to be tacked on the end. We need to be naming homophobia or the end result is shame and ultimately these unnecessary deaths.
I know we have to be the change. I'm glad I didn't pray on my own. I got to make a significant connection with someone I otherwise wouldn't have had the chance to. And yet... my heart breaks.