At the cusp of a new year it is a good time to reflect on what I want to take charge of and try differently. I've just extended my last blog on questions, as it is a particularly good time to be asking ourselves questions.
I've noticed I've been struggling with the feeling that I am no longer anyone's number one's priority. This has some basis in reality - I used to have a spouse who had made various promises, and I used to have young children and when they are little, as their mum you are the centre of their universe :) Having done that role well, they now are independent with lives very distinct from my own. Tho I have asked that we play family games and do some hanging out on the two days I have booked off this week, so I'm hoping that comes to pass as I am looking forward to that.
The truth is tho that I believe the only way we will successfully live our lives, even if we have a spouse or young children, is to remember that we have to prioritise ourselves (the putting on our own oxygen mask first example that I keep coming back to as the best tip I have ever received). If everyone took responsibility for working on their own baggage, and so didn't have expectations of others to fulfil their needs, we would all get along a whole lot better I think :)
And so I'm taking charge of my life -
Here's what I want to change and my first steps for each in bringing that about.
1. Do more yoga. a) remove the old desk that is taking up my floor space whilst it waits for someone on freegle to want it. b) set up mat. c) set alarm on phone that prompts me each day to have a session.
2. See my friends more - some of my closest friends I've not seen in years. a) make a list, b) contact each and actually work out a date.
3. Read more - a) simply stop checking Facebook so often. And stop waiting on other people's timetables and just do my own thing :)
What do you want to change in your own life?
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