Some painful experiences are more bearable when we have been through them before. I found giving birth the second time easier as I felt more in control and confident having been through it previously. Maybe because I had a clearer sense that I would get through it - the first time we do something hard we have no evidence that it is something we can survive.
And yet I think it's also possible to see how traumatic experiences get harder still with the layering of having been through similar before. When I go to funerals I feel again the grief of attending previous ones combined with the fresh grief of the immediate loss.
It would seem that I have more challenges to go through that I'm wary of as I didn't enjoy them first time around. I don't feel I have the strength to face things knowing how tough they can be. But I remember that quote that we have a 100% record of getting through the difficult days.
I'm not sure why I'm presented with my challenges in multiples rather than merely one at a time, I guess life is deep, rich and complicated. Here's much love for all that's rich, deep and complicated in your life too.
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