Thursday, 20 June 2013

when the going gets tough

In life, it's not where you go, it's who you travel with.

My fellow travellers are ace and I'm so grateful for them. They take many guises – some are more distant than others, some are just via social media, some are squabbling in the back seat, but all of them are very precious and I'm v glad they're alongside me on my journeying.

Yesterday, sat on the bus, not knowing anything about the days likely to unfold for the rest of the passengers (except the one I chatted with briefly before she got off), I was aware that most of us interact not having a clue what is going on for the others around us. Later in the day, a bloke was kicking off and I decided not to intervene but was again aware we had no idea what particular struggles he was enduring in the moment. Each one of us is carrying our own histories, anxieties, griefs and hopes, and for the most part, we don't know what others are having to deal with and have to trust we and they are just are doing our best to move forwards with them all. I think we are all walking miracles, and should be celebrated in that.

A recurring theme at the mo is how sometimes people can struggle to get alongside others when we are heavy laden, and how being shunned by others makes the situation feel even worse. I feel really lucky to have several people in my life with whom I can be real, and who travel solidly alongside me – some silent, some very vocal, some dab hands at lightheartedness, some highly skilled listeners. My heart goes out to people who don't have such a robust team supporting them, and I think we all can be a minor part of everyone's team without even knowing it!


I know getting alongside others can be scary – what if we make it even worse? But what if the not getting alongside is what makes it worse? I know there are times when we just can't get alongside someone, it makes no sense. But when we can, even if it's just briefly, we are choosing love not fear. And that my friend is fantastic :D

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