Trusting each person is doing their best they can at any time is brilliant. I love and go along with that. Being non-judgemental, again, that is what I aspire too.
However, I was really touched recently reading about someone who intervened and stopped someone from taking their own life. Was the desperate person doing the best they could – yes, I believe that – they felt they had no other options. Did this mean the intervener had to trust they knew what was best for them and not encourage them to think differently – no, I think not. So where is the balance? If I think someone is in their ‘stuff’ and so can’t work out what’s best, I could offer them some time to talk things through. If I felt someone was running away from things and choosing harmful responses (judgemental?) I could again ask how they were, were they happy with the choices they were making, did they want to do anything different, what, how etc.
I guess it can be good to have an awareness of when I’m helping someone (also/just) for my benefit. Does that make me wanting to help wrong/less than useful. Maybe not. I know sometimes I feel ‘responsible’ for things I’m not responsible for… and yet I believe we’re ALL responsible for more than we often take responsibility for.
Still have lots to learn? Yes.
Doing the best I can? Indeedy :D
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