it’s really uplifting isn’t it, when someone appreciates us. I’ve learned that the best kind of appreciation has to be specfic - it can be wonderful to be told we’re great, but it’s far easier to hold onto if it’s something more tangible than that.
years ago i was once told “i could marry you for that cup of tea!” - he didn’t, but i can still hear it now - it stuck as evidence of something someone had noticed that i had done well!
even better i guess is when we’re encouraged to notice for ourselves what we’re doing well, so we can appreciate ourselves. I often try and ask people when they’ve just done something such as lead a session “what is it you’re pleased with”. I’m frequently told that’s a good question to ask (see, instant appreciation of me too - win, win!); although sometimes people struggle to notice what they’ve done well and are pulled to notice what they could have done better, so need a little encouragement to feel ok about being pleased with themselves (back to the theme in the "you are brilliant" blog...)
So, let’s keep noticing how well people are doing, and tell them. You might just make someone’s day!
I've felt really appreciated today while on strike, with countless passing cars offering thumbs-up and beeping. It's good to feel you're making a difference and being positive in the world.
ReplyDeleteLove you Kristie - you give the best hugs :)
thanks Verity :) Love you too. I like the way you don't shy away from telling me you love me; I appreciate the way you have stood by me and stood up for me in the bank that time when I felt unable to stand up for myself. I admire the way you're bringing up your daughter to be passionate and political, aware of her responsibilities as well as her rights. You make a massive positive difference to both the world and my life - thankyou :)
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