cheerleaders

My weekly counsellor tells me on a regular basis that I'm doing well. There have been weeks when I've struggled to believe the truth in that, but it has boosted me to know that she can see it even when I can't totally feel it. 'you're doing really well' is a phrase I'm using a lot at the moment. I'm aware tho that the more specific we can be, the easier it is for it to be heard. I shall try and let folk know exactly where I see them doing well. There's a fischy song I've long loved with the line 'you can build up or you can tear down'. Everyday I'm presented with Many opportunities where I could be critical or affirming. I watch the impact when I see others make similar choices - the kind word that lifts another's spirit, the exasperated shout that punctures.

I love the cheerleaders I have in my life. Those that both tell and show me that they think I'm ace. None of them wave pompoms, they all cheer in slightly different ways tho no less subtle than chants in a sports arena. I try and remember not to take them for granted, tho the main way I show my appreciation is cheering them on too :-)

Who leads your cheer? Who is in that team of people reminding you they are behind you all the way? And if you need more, get recruiting - I've found the best way to get brilliant cheerleaders is to model how you'd like it done!! And when someone lifts me up in a particular way I try and make a mental note as that's probably the way they'd like to be cheered on themselves B-)