how?

I still don't know how to stop the thoughts.
I have a feeling that a meditation response would be to stop trying to wall them out but let them come, notice them, and set them aside. But then look, here they are again!

Perhaps I need to learn ways of stopping?
Perhaps I am trying too hard?

I'm glad I have booked the massage, but I notice it still feels like a deadline, with things I feel I need to do beforehand. The sun is shining so I tell myself, oh I really must get that load of washing on, then that invoice needs paying, maybe if i leave earlier I can pay it on the way... how do I stop the endless pressure on myself to keep doing things now if not sooner??. Stepping outside of our default way of being is hard.

If anyone has any tips that have worked for you, please share. I don't need telling what I'm doing wrong (I do that more than enough for myself ) but am open to suggestions as to what has helped you that I might try.

So far the only suggestion I have received is to get drunk. There must be other ways.